Resources

Additional Resources

In Mother Justice’s journey to find healing from the short- and long-term effects of domestic violence, sexual assault, and stalking, she provides these vital resources below. This list represents some of the books that gave her the most clarity and insight into her abuser’s victimization, or what she found most beneficial to her advocacy knowledge and skills. Mother Justice will be adding helpful resources to this page frequently. Please check back for those resources. Additionally, DO NOT BOOKMARK this page if you are in any situation where your abuser can access your computer or phone.

Written Resources

• Recognizing Domestic Violence and Abusers:
  • Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation and Guilt to Manipulate You, by Susan Forward with Donna Frazier
  • The Verbally Abusive Relationship, by Patricia Evans
  • He Promised He’d Stop, by Michael Groetsch
  • Coercive Control: How Men Entrap Women in Personal Life, by Evan Stark
  • Why Does He Do That: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men, by Lundy Bancroft

• Recognizing the Counter-Parenting of Abusers:
  • The Batterer as Parent, by Jay Silverman and Lundy Bancroft
  • Mothers on Trial: The Battle for Children and Custody, by Phyllis Chesler

• Recognizing Sexual Predators:
  • Against Our Will: Men, Women and Rape, by Susan Brownmiller
  • I Never Called It Rape: The Ms. Report on Recognizing, Fighting and Surviving Date and Acquaintance Rape, by Robin Warshaw
  • Predators: Pedophiles, Rapists and Other Sex Offenders, by Anna Salter
  • Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality, by Gail Dines
  • The Johns: Sex for Sale and the Men Who Buy It, by Victor Malarek

• Recognizing the Danger Posed by Abusers:
  • The Gift of Fear and Other Survival Signals that Protect Us from Violence, by Gavin DeBecker
  • Why Do They Kill, by David Adams
  • Assessing Dangerousness: Domestic Violence Offenders and Child Abusers, by Jacquelyn C. Campbell and Jill Theresa Messing
  • See What YOU Made Me Do, by Jess Hill

• Making a Choice for Safety and Healing:
  • Safety Planning with Battered Women: Complex Lives/Difficult Choices, by Jill Davies, Eleanor J. Lyon and Diane Monti-Catania
  • Surviving a Stalker: Stay Safe, Avoid Conflict, Regain Your Life, by Linden Gross
  • It’s My Life Now: Starting Over after an Abusive Relationship or Domestic Violence, by Meg Kennedy Dugan and Roger R. Hock
  • Should I Stay or Should I Go: A Guide to Knowing if Your Relationship Can–and Should–be Saved, by Lundy Bancroft and JAC Patrissi
  • Surviving a Cyberstalker: How to Prevent and Survive Cyberabuse and Stalking, by Alexis Moore

• Recognizing the Roots of Misogyny
  • Why Women Are Blamed for Everything, by Dr. Jessica Taylor
  • Sexy But Psycho, by Dr. Jessica Taylor

• Recognizing the Impact of Trauma and Generational Violence:
  • Family Secrets: the Path from Shame to Healing, by John Bradshaw
  • Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence–from Domestic Abuse to Political Terror, by Judith L. Herman
  • The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma, by Bessel van der Kolk, MD
  • The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog: And Other Stories from a Child Psychiatrist’s Notebook–What Traumatized Children Can Teach Us about Loss, Love and Healing, by Bruce Perry and Maia Szalavitz
  • Trauma-Informed Treatment and Prevention of Intimate Partner Violence, by Casey T. Taft, Christopher M. Murphy, and Suzannah K. Creech

• Building Resiliency and Safety for Children
  • A Very Touching Book, by Jan Hindman
  • A Terrible Thing Happened, by Margaret M. Holmes, Sasha J. Mudlaff and Cary Pillo
  • How Full Is Your Bucket? For Kids, by Tom Rath
  • Hush: Moving from Silence to Healing after Child Sexual Abuse, by Nicole Braddock Bromley

Other Written Resources

• Abuse is Not Conflict Chart by Cathryn Couzens
• 2004 Praxis Signs of an Abusive Personality PDF, by Lydia Walker, Project for Victims of Family Violence, Inc., Fayetteville, AZ
• ACE Screen
• LAP Screen 2011, by Dr. Jacquelyn Campbell, John Hopkins University, MD
• Recognizing Signs of Child Abuse, notes on a training by Lydia Walker, Praxis International, 2004
• DV Legislation 2021 Final Draft

Program and Organizational Resources